Choosing an Engagement Ring to Suit Your Hand
What style engagement ring fits you best and what to focus on when shopping
What style engagement ring fits you best and what to focus on when shopping
None of us are exactly alike. The perfect engagement ring for one person may not be so perfect for another. Some of the classic styles may fit everyone. For example, this timeless beauty from Blue Nile will be perfect on any woman’s hand.
That is not the case for all engagement ring styles. Take a look at this beautiful ring from Blue Nile. While it may look stunning on a pettite finger, it may not go as well with others. On the other hand (no pun intended), a ring like this from Blue Nile may look a bit clunky on a petite finger.
When you go shopping for an engagement ring for your spouse-to-be, it’s vital you take into account her finger type and hand shape. Doing so avoids the situation where a beautiful ring doesn’t look quite right when you slide it on.
The features of your girlfriend’s hand may be accentuated or otherwise by the style of ring you choose. Whether she has short or long fingers, large or small hands, or distinct features like large knuckles, your choice of design will end up looking a lot different on her hand.
To take out the guesswork, we’ve put together a list of common finger types and hand shapes, and what to look for in a design for each one. Click the link to jump ahead to the section that applies.
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Small, thin fingers have an elegance that pairs beautifully with fine jewelry. This lets you turn a simple ring into something really special.
You want to match up petite fingers with smaller stones and understated designs. A simple Round Brilliant, Cushion or Princess Cut on a prong setting can look stunning, at a much cheaper price than more elaborate settings.
Extravagant or overloaded designs can easily be overbearing for slim fingers. As such, you should take a minimalistic approach if your girlfriend falls under this category. If you want a ring that grabs a little more attention, pavé settings pair beautifully with a slender finger.
Examples of rings for petite fingers:
If your girlfriend has a smaller frame and petite hands, you’ll be able to find something beautiful without needing to dish out for a large diamond. Small hands allow delicate rings with small stones to really stand out.
You don’t want anything too elaborate. A high-quality Round Brilliant Cut on a simple solitaire setting can look stunning on small hands. If you want a little more style, you could go with a thin channel set like this from James Allen.
Avoid anything too bold and extravagant. The look this provides will be overpowering, and you’ll be paying more for something that doesn’t look as nice.
Examples of rings for small hands:
If your girlfriend’s hand or finger has any distinct characteristics, the intention is generally to draw attention away from it. If her fingers are shorter than normal, you will want to make them appear longer and leaner.
You can achieve this with a vertically-set, elongated diamond shape, such as an Oval, Pear Shape or Marquise. These shapes help to create an illusion of length, which makes the fingers seem longer and slimmer. Emerald cuts can also achieve this, as long as the stone is not too big.
A stunning Marquise diamond matches perfectly with a shorter finger, drawing attention to the brilliance of the diamond and away from the negative points of the finger.
Additionally, a narrow band helps to make the finger seem longer, by reducing the coverage area of the band.
For women with short fingers, you’ll want to avoid the opposite (wide or thick bands). As for specific cuts, shy away from diamonds with a wide surface area like Asscher and Princess Cuts, as well as any overly large diamonds. In lieu of size, put your budget into finding a diamond with a better cut and higher brilliance.
Examples of rings for short fingers:
Chubby or thick fingers can present a problem when buying rings. The larger width of the finger takes away from smaller rings and diamond cuts quite easily. A small ring or thin band also accentuates the thickness of the finger.
In general, rings for chubby or stubby fingers need to be larger and show less skin, particularly on the sides of the stone.
If you have the budget, high carat diamonds look better and have more prominence over the finger itself. Otherwise, certain settings and styles can make the ring look larger and draw more attention. For example, halo style rings give a smaller center diamond a larger appearance and enhanced sparkle. Three-stone and cluster settings also do a fine job of accentuating the ring and drawing attention away from the finger.
Examples of rings for chubby fingers:
Large hands can easily take attention away from a ring if it is too small, so the objective should be to find a larger stone or a more attention-grabbing design.
In lieu of buying a large center stone, the setting can make a big difference in how a ring appears on a woman with larger hands. Three-stone settings draw a lot of attention and won’t be overpowered by the size of the hand. Halo settings can help to accentuate the perceived size of the diamond, while vintage, cluster and split-shank settings provide a pronounced look that goes well with large hands.
Stay away from small or narrow rings, slim bands and minimalist designs, which will draw too much contrast to the size of the hand.
Examples of rings for large hands:
Larger than normal knuckles require the engagement ring to draw attention away from them, and balance out the look.
Wide or bold bands achieve the desired effect, drawing the eye to the ring, as opposed to other features. More elaborate settings also help to grab peoples’ attention. Three-stone settings or other styles with a wide surface area accentuate the ring and give a balanced look.
The main thing to avoid with large knuckles is thin bands, as this will present a significant contrast to the knuckle, making it stand out even more.
Examples of rings for large knuckles:
For long fingers, you have a lot of freedom in the choice of rings, diamonds, and bands. Many bold and creative styles look stunning on long fingers, where they may not have the same effect with different finger types.
While a simple, high-quality Round Brilliant Cut can still be exquisite, you should take the opportunity to make a statement and turn heads with a stunning, unique design. Princess Cut, Asscher Cut, and Cushion Cut diamonds will look perfect on long, slender fingers. Pair it with a bold setting like a tension style for an incredible look.
As for what to avoid, you have a lot less to worry about than other finger types, but you should stay away from anything that makes the finger appear any longer. That means vertically-set cuts like Pear, Oval and Marquise may not draw the attention they should, especially if paired with a thin band.
Examples of rings for long fingers:
There are many things you need to take into account when shopping for an engagement ring or your future spouse. At the end of the day, the goal is to pick out a ring that looks stunning and fits your budget.
Even the diamond you select should be tailored to your look. As the master diamond cutter Sir Gabriel Tolkowsky put it “The first thing I do when I hold a diamond, is I look at it and ask it, ‘what would you like to become?” We as the consumer should pick the one that ‘became’ the perfect diamond for us.
That’s why it’s vital to take into account the unique shape and features of your girlfriend’s hand. Doing so will help you maximize the impression of the positive aspects of the ring, hand, and fingers while drawing attention away from the negatives. Better yet, you’ll avoid wasting money on features of a ring that don’t pop out when she puts it on.
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